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Dating and marriage is different than it was twenty years ago.  In today?s society, more than 50% of all marriages fail for one reason or another. Just thinking about that makes ?commitment? seem scary.  It seems that when relationships are faced with challenges, people quit trying. Dating is m ore like a marathon, trying to date as m any people as possible, instead of taking time to get to know someone at a deeper level.  For married couples, divorce is not biased.  Whether married for thirty years or eight months, the outcome can be the same.
 
The fact is that relationships, whether dating or married, are hard. Things do not always go perfectly, fighting does occur, and it takes a 100% commitment from both parties to make it a success.  Often when people break off a relationship, they feel as though something is missing.  The ?spark? has gone, leaving one or both people feeling inadequate and unfulfilled.   
 
However, even though the odds are not very good, healthy, and long-lasting relationships are definitely possible and proven by many people. Look at Paul Newman and Joanne Woodard, Danny Devito and Rhea Perlm an, or Nancy and Ronald Regan.  What secrets do they possess?  The answer is that they all work hard at their relationship.  They made a decision of choosing to love their mate rather that relying on the ?warm and fuzzy? feelings, which everyone knows will fade.   By making love a choice you are making a decision that even in the bad times, you stick it out.   
 
Think of it like choosing a car. You pick out the make, model, year, color, and features that you believe are best for you. After driving your car for a couple of months, you realize that perhaps you should have purchased a larger car, or that maybe the leather seats would have been better, or on hot sunny days, the sunroof would have been nice.  However, it is now too late so you choose to keep your car and make it work.  It is the same for marriage. Not everything will be perfect and there will be major obstacles to overcome but you have made your decision and now you choose to make it work.
 
There are hundreds of things you can do to better your relationship. To help get you headed in the right direction, we have chosen 101 ways to build, strengthen, and enhance your relationship.
 
Remember, little steps taken every day will add up to big successes.
 
1.      Start Over
 
When couples first get together, everything is new and exciting. They overlook the little annoying things the other person does. However, after time, the nagging starts, instead of hearing, ?You look beautiful,? they might hear ?Why are you wearing that shirt?? If this sounds like your relationship, first, the two of you need to sit down and be honest that things have changed.  Identify the things each other did in the beginning of the relationship that created the attraction in the first place. Then together, make a commitment to start over.  The truth is, both of you will have to work on this. It will not automatically be easy but it is possible. Start by forgiving each other, forgetting the past, and then start over with the flirtation. Focus only on the special things your mate does and relearn to put the unimportant things aside.  It will take some time so be patient.
 
2.      Schedule Time
 
Spending quality time together is crucial. This time can be with friends, dining out, attending a sporting event, or cuddling together while watching a favorite movie. The activity is not what is important but the fact that you are together, doing something that you both enjoy. People have extremely busy schedules and between work, family, the home, errands, and everything else going on, finding time for your mate can be difficult. Just as you would schedule a meeting on your calendar, show some courtesy in the relationship by scheduling time with each other. Once the plan is in place, no backing out unless you have some life and death emergency.
 
3.      The Power of Touch
 
When a child is ill, doctors will tell you that it is proven that a simple, loving touch of a parent can quickly pull the child through a crisis.  It is the same for relationships. Playing with your mate?s hair, rubbing their hand, a soft kiss on the neck, a soft pat on the leg or giving a gentle back rub will make a huge difference in how your mate responds to you. When was the last time you walked up to your mate for no reason and without saying a word, affectionately placed a kiss on their neck? This is not in a sexual way, but an affectionate way.  There is a difference. The next time the two of you are sitting in the car, at the grocery story, or standing in line at the theater, quietly reach over and take their hand. Do not be surprised if you get a strange look of curiosity the first time!
 
4.      Surprise
 
If you and your mate have scheduled some time for a Friday night dinner put together a surprise instead.  For example, if your mate loves professional wrestling, buy some tickets near the front or if they like concerts, purchase the tickets ahead of time, getting the best seats possible. When Friday night comes around, insist on driving and head toward the location where the event is taking place.  When asked where you are going, simply answer, ?I have a surprise for you. I know you love professional wrestling so I purchased two great seats for tonights performance ?or? I know we had planned on going to dinner, but I wanted to surprise you with something special. I purchased tickets to see one of your favorite groups in concert.?  The idea of you getting the tickets for something THEY like and then keeping it as a special surprise will touch the heart!
 
5.      Needed Space
 
As important as it is to spend quality time together, it is equally important to give each other time to do something they like.  If your mate loves to fish but you have no desire to bait a hook with little, slimy worms, or if you like to go to the casino but your mate would rather do something different, encourage each other to take time apart. Try establishing a set time for this very purpose, if possible.  For example, perhaps you could determine that every other Friday night is ?singles? night. This is not a time to date other people, but to enjoy preferred activities. Remember that you have to place trust in your relationship.  If you try this and then drill them, to see what they did, whom they were with, and where they went, then the exercise has failed.
 
6.      No Debates
 
If you know that you and your mate have proven differences in opinion on certain subjects, avoid those subjects.  As an example, if you are a Republican and your mate is a Democrat, politics should probably be avoided. As the two of you identify new topics that could cause a debate session, stop the conversation before it even gets started.
 
7.      Filler Talk
 
If you are married, especially with children, break out of the habit of talking about nothing. Many times, families will be sitting around the dinner table and the conversation consists of, ?Do you like your carrots?? or ?I wonder what is on TV tonight?? Instead, change your strategy to include real questions, showing real interest. Replace the normal, ?Did you have a good day at work?? with ?Tell me what you did at work today.? Even if you do not understand everything being said, listen with interest. It is not that you are so much interested in the work, but your mate?s life.
 
8.      Re-establish Old Traditions
 
If  you  and  your  mate  had  a  tradition  of  some e  kind  when  you  first  got together, dust it off and breathe life back into it.  Perhaps you met after work  on  Friday  at  the  local  pub  for  a drink,  washed  your  cars together every Saturday morning, or attended church together on Sunday.  Whatever it was, re-establish the tradition.
 
9.      Predictability
 
If asking couples the factors involved in the demise of their relationship, one of the common responses is that everything in the relationship is so predictable. When rebuilding a relationship, do not be afraid of letting go of boredom.  If you normally hate the fact that Saturday afternoons consist  of  your  mate  sitting for  hours  watching  football,  fix  some finger sandwiches and something cool to drink and go join them on the couch, or  if  your  m ate  spends  hours  in  the  garden  trying  to  make  things  look perfect, surprise them with a new flowering plant, and then help to plant it.  When taking a walk with your mate, stop and give them a soft kiss, say, ?I love you,? and then keep walking.  Take some chances and do the unexpected.
 
10.    Lighten Up
 
Often  when  couples  have  gone  through  or  are  going  through  some bumpy spots in their relationship, things tend to get serious.  It could be that  there  is  a  tremendous  amount  of  tension  or  perhaps  they  are  not sure what to say.  Regardless of the reason, learn to lighten up. Do not take every comment, glance, or movement as a serious problem.  If your mate  makes  a  mistake,  which  you  both  will,  let  it  go, or  if  appropriate, laugh about it. If you make a mistake, do not be afraid to poke fun at yourself. This will automatically start the process of tension breaking.
 
11.    Communicate
 
When couples are having problems in a relationship, communication is the first thing to stop. It is often easier to just be quiet than to get mad.  When rebuilding relationships, just as communication was the first to stop,  it  now  needs  to  be  the  first  to  start. This will require that both individuals  let  down  their  guard  and  pretty  much  throw  caution  to  the wind.  Healing in the relationship cannot start until you talk.  Make an agreement that you will talk about anything and everything and that you will listen, really listen. That does not mean that you will agree with everything, which is perfectly fine.  However, if you do not agree, do not yell, rather, the two of you need to calmly discuss the issue and together, work out a solution. This is hard work but within a very short time, you will both feel much better, individually and as a couple.
 
12.    A Night of Passion

Intimacy  and  passion  in  relationships  is  not  only  important  but also healthy. Couples need to enjoy being together in an intimate way.  When relationships are troubled, the last thing either person wants is to be sexual or passionate with each other. However, this is a part of the healing  and  rebuilding  of  the  relationship  and  although  it  might  be awkward in the beginning, it is crucial.  Make your intimate time together special.   Surprise your mate with a warm bubble bath, lighted candles, soft music, and a bottle of wine, or reserve a nice romantic evening at a local  hotel  to  include  a  wonderful  candlelit  dinner,  fine  wine,  and  a beautiful room.
 
13.    Dinner Party
 
Start a new tradition of hosting a dinner party every other month or two and inviting several of you and your mate?s friends.  Set up board games that  everyone  will  enjoy,  have some  light  and  lively  music  playing,  and plan to have a blast.  Spending time with friends in this kind of setting is a great way to reduce stress.    When stress is low, couples get along better.  This is a wonderful way to interact with each other?s friends as a couple.
 
14.    Happy Birthday
 
As people grow older, in general, birthdays become less celebrated.  Gifts are quickly given, meals eaten, and it is over.  For your mate?s next birthday, take some time to plan something very special.  Make this a true  celebration  of  their  life  as  a  way  of  showing  your  love  and appreciation.  Every person, even adults, like attention and love to be appreciated. Whether a surprise party or not, your mate will be impressed that you went to all the effort just for them.
 
15.    Secret Getaway
 
Plan a nice weekend getaway to some place off the beaten track where you can enjoy some privacy. A quaint cottage or charming bed and breakfast would be ideal choices.  Scout out the area ahead of time and choose a few things that the two of you would like to do in the area but just  be  sure  to  leave  plenty  of  time  for  you  to  enjoy  some  alone  time.  Order a nice bottle of wine or some hot cappuccino and relax in front of the fire!    Make this a romantic weekend where you can rekindle your love.
 
16.    Special Greeting
 
If your mate has to work late and you know he had a bad day, surprise him with a late-night gourmet meal.   When you hear him arrive home, greet  him  in  new,  sexy  lingerie,  a  warm  kiss,  and  wonderful  hot  meal.  After he picks himself up off the floor, he will fall in love with you all over again for this wonderful greeting.   If reversed and the woman is coming home,  after  giving  her  a  lingering  kiss,  have  her  join  you  in  the  dining room  where  the  table  is  set  with  soft  glowing  candles  and  a  wonderful meal.    Have an envelope lying by her plate that when opened, she will read,  ?This  certificate  is  good  for  one thirty-minute  massage  after dinner.?  This is how you keep romance alive!
 
17.    Just Because
 
Give your m ate gifts ?just because.?  These do not have to be expensive whatsoever.  For example, one woman had a miniature dish collection in her kitchen.  Her husband came home and told her that he had a gift for her.    Holding  out  her  hand,  he  gently  placed  in  her  hand  a  miniature porcelain  cup  with  her name  neatly  written  in  blue  ink.   She knew that this cup probably cost no more than $2.00 but the thought that he would take the time to find something she enjoyed, was worth $1 million.  The small gifts packed with thought are far m ore cherished.
 
18.    Say it with Words
 
Surprise your mate with little notes found in unexpected places.  If your mate travels for work; place a loving note somewhere in their suitcase.  Perhaps they have a long commute to work.  If so, slip a note saying, ?I love  you,?  in  their  CD  case  where  you  know  they  will  find  it.   Another recommendation is sticking a note on the bathroom mirror so this will be the first thing seen in the morning.  Be creative and have some fun with this.
 
19.    Cuddle Time
 
When  couples  first  start  dating,  cuddling  is  usually  a  part  of  their everyday existence.  However, as the relationship progresses or after children enter the picture, the cuddling stops. Take some time just to cuddle.  If your mate is sitting on the couch watching a movie, or laying in  bed  reading,  scoot  close  and  tell  them  that  you  just want  to  cuddle.  This makes both people feel secure and loved.
 
20.    Breakfast in Bed
 
When was the last time you or your mate were served breakfast in bed?  Never?  On a Saturday or Sunday, when nothing special is planned, get up a little early and fix their favorite breakfast.  Include the morning newspaper as an added bonus.  Although they may be shocked, you can be guaranteed that this gesture of love will be appreciated.
 
21.    Make the Men Feel Good
 
For  the  m an  in  your  life,  here  are  some  recommendations  for  making him feel special:
 
Flirt with him in public places Just once, leave the toilet lid up    
Lavish him with compliments   
Tell him how sexy he is   
Act jealous once in awhile, even if you are not   
Remind him that he is a wonderful m ate, husband, father, whichever   applies
Tell him how handsome you find him   
 
22.    Make the Women Feel Good
 
Just like men, woman love feeling good about them.    
These recommendations might help:
Tell her how beautiful she is    
Compliment her on her many skills (be specific)   
Just once, leave the toilet seat down   
Tell her how much she means to you   
Let her know that she is your best friend   
Show affectionate to her in front of family and friends   
Let her know that you find her to be sexy   
 
23.    That Kiss
 
As couples become comfortable with each other, kisses can become lame.    Get  rid  of  the  pecks  and  get serious  with  the  kisses.  The next time the two of you greet each other, enjoy your kiss and do not be so quick to stop.  While there are appropriate times for serious kissing, they should be loving, sincere, and passionate, regardless of how long they last.  You will find that as you pay attention to your kissing and let your mate  know  that  you  enjoy kissing  them,  you  will  both  feel  better  about your relationship.   
 
24.    Be Kind to One Another
 
Unbelievably, kindness is often over simplified.  Even good relationships can lack acts of kindness.  This refers to ?Do unto others??  Simple acts of kindness can have huge impacts on a relationship?  If your husband or boyfriend  is  out  working  on  the  car  on  a  hot  summer  day,  make  a thermos  of  ice-cold  tea  and  take it  to  him,  giving  him  a  gentle  kiss.  If your wife or girlfriend has been working at the computer all day, walk up behind her and massage her shoulders and neck.  You get the idea.  Kindness means looking at the other person?s situation and seeing what you can do or add to that situation to make it better or easier.  This is a way to validate your respect for each other. Kindness will go a long way in a relationship.
 
25.    Special Hobby
 
Find some type of hobby that you both enjoy and then do it together.  It might be that you both love refurnishing furniture.  Turn this into an adventure  of  going  to  estate  sales  together  to  find  nice  pieces  of furniture and they refurbishing them as a team.  Another option would be  if  you  have  both  wanted  to  learn  how  to  ballroom  or  salsa  dance.  Take  lessons  together so  you  can  then  go  out  on  the town  and  dance the night away.  This is a great way to make your relationship even stronger while adding in something fun that you both enjoy.
 
26.    Listen ? Really Listen
 
Get into a habit of listening to what your mate is saying.  Not the kind of listening  that  you  do  when  you  go  out  or  sit  at  the  dinner  table,  but  a different kind of listening.   Have you ever overheard your mate make a comment to a friend or family m ember about something they really want or want to do?  Maybe you heard your boyfriend or husband tell a friend that they would love a certain tool.   For no reason whatsoever, make a special effort to get that for him.  You might have heard your girlfriend or wife  mention  a  spa  that  they  would  love  to  try.   Again, without any reason, surprise her.   This shows that your mate is really paying attention to things important to you.
 
27.    Be a Kid
   
Do not be a prude.   There is absolutely no reason why couples at any age cannot get into tickling matches or wrestle on the floor.  Do not allow your relationship to grow old and stale.  Understand and accept that it is
perfectly fine to be silly from time to time.   If you have nothing special planned  on  a  Friday  night,  rent a  few games, order  in  Chinese,  plug in the Play Station, and play games.   
 
28.    All Decked Out
 
Although most people do not get dressed formally to go out, as a special treat,  find  an  upscale  restaurant,  the  opera,  or  even  a  ball,  where  the man can wear a tuxedo and the woman an evening gown.  If possible, rent a limousine and have a bottle of champagne chilling before you get in.  You will both feel good about yourselves and spending this magical evening together.  This is something unique that brings another unexpected twist into the relationship, which keeps things interesting and alive.  The  two  of  you  will  have  a  romantic  night  that  you  will  never forget.
 
29.    Showing Love
 
Although  hearing  the  words,  ?I  love  you?  is  special  and  important, sometimes you wish you could tell your mate as well as hear from your mate those words, but in special and unique ways.  Here are some ideas of how this can be accomplished:
Rent his favorite movie, even if it is something you do not like, and  plan an  evening alone  where  you  can  be  with  him  as  he  enjoys  his special treat.
When he gets out of the shower, hand him a warm, cozy towel just  heated in the dryer.
When you make him pancakes, first pour the words, ?I Love You? on the griddle and cook for a minute to brown.  Then, pour more batter over the words to create a round pancake. The result will be a pancake displaying those three special words when you flip it over.
While he is out of town, wash his car and surprise him by picking him  up in a clean, shiny car at the airport.
Take him out to lunch.   
Have  his  favorite  breakfast  on  the  table  along  with  the  morning  newspaper.
Instead  of  bugging  him  to  go  to  the  grocery  store  with  you,  let  him  stay home.
Display your favorite picture of the two of you on the refrigerator.   
Buy him a subscription to his favorite magazine.   
 
30.    Split the Responsibility
 
Whether  dating  or  married,  weekends  are  always  full  of  errands  and chores.  If you find that on the weekend things are lopsided, help your mate out.  For example, if there are kids involved and one has soccer game  while  the  other  has  a  baseball  game,  at  the  same  time,  offer  to take one of the kids and your mate takes the other.  Make this a special time by packing a special lunch or snacks.  Perhaps one of you has company coming and the house needs to be cleaned, laundry done, and groceries purchased.    Set aside something you need done and offer to pitch in to help.  Simply say you want to help and ask which of the jobs you can take over.  This gesture will show your mate that you really care by sacrificing your time.
 
31.    Love Means Having to Say You Are Sorry
 
If  you  make  a  mistake  by  doing  or  saying  something  that  is  hurtful  or damaging to the relationship, say that you are sorry.  Many people struggle with these words, even when they know that what they did was
wrong.  It actually takes a strong person to apologize.  Do not wait until you think you have the courage but say it immediately, and with sincerity.  
Too often when couples argue, there is a long period of silence, which actually makes the anger and tension worse. You need to let your mate know immediately that you made a mistake and ask for forgiveness.
 
32.    Be Yourself
 
Do not be phony in your relationship, trying to be someone or something different as a way to please your mate.  For a relationship to work, both people  need  to  be  themselves  and  react  to  things  naturally.    Just imagine  if  you  are  really  kind  of  on  the  silly  side,  enjoying  life  to  the fullest.  Then you meet a wonderful person who is much more conservative than you are.  Because you are attracted to them, you try to You are miserable and eventually,  the  person  is  going  to  be  exposed  to  the  ?real?  you. You have to base any relationship on honesty or it will eventually fall apart.
 
33.    Maintain Your Health
 
You  might  think  ?  what  does  good  health  have  to  do  with  a  good relationship?    In reality, it has a lot to do with it.  Having a good relationship  means  having  the  energy  to  enjoy  getting  out  and  doing things together.  To do that, it is important to eat right.  When people are tired, they become short-tempered and frustrated.   For this reason, it is important to get the right amount of sleep.  Good exercise keeps your body in shape for being adventurous together.  Taking care of your body and  mind  will  flow  over  into  your  relationship  and  make  you  a  calmer, stronger and better-balanced person.
 
34.    Compliment ? A Lot
 
Be generous with compliments.   It is very common for people to notice something  nice  about  another  person  and  think  about  it  internally,  but never voice it.   When in a relationship, compliments are like glue.  They hold the couple?s attention and respect.    Make sure your compliments are genuine and based on something you see or hear your mate do.  If you have a clogged garbage disposal and your boyfriend or husband is able to unclog it, compliment them on being handy.   If your girlfriend or wife takes her mother to the doctor, compliment her on her generosity. The  fact  is  that  criticism  is  destructive  and  can  very  quickly  tear  a relationship apart.    Just like the cliché, ?If you do not have something nice  to  say,  then  do  not  say  anything  at  all.?    This is very true ? take notice  of  the  good  things  your  mate  does  and  make it  known  to  them that you see and appreciate those things.
 
35.    Realistic Expectations
 
No  matter  how  wonderful  and  flawless  your  mate  seems,  no  one  is perfect.   Be careful about putting someone on a pedestal, especially in the early stages of your relationship.   Make sure that the expectations
you have for your mate and you are realistic.  There are going to be differences in opinion and probably some disagreements.  Also, do not assume  that  your  mate  knows  how  you  feel  or  what  you  think  about something.    When discussing something important to you, ensure that you both understand the same thing.  The reality is that neither one of you are going to know exactly what the other one needs.  As long as you do not expect them to read your mind and accept that this is a part of getting to know one another and communicating, you will be fine.
 
36.    Leave the Baggage Behind
 
Every  person  on  the  face  of  the  Earth  has  some  kind  of  history,  or ?baggage?, although at varying levels.  Do not walk into a relationship with your arms loaded with that baggage.  The past is the past.   Even
though  there  are  things  from  the  past  that  are  hurtful,  and  even damaging, learn from those things and come out a better and stronger person.  This  allows  you  to  step  into  a  new  relationship  with  better knowledge of what not to do.   Leave the baggage from the past alone, focus on today, and look forward to tomorrow.
 
37.    Do Not Repeat, Do Not Repeat, Do Not Repeat
 
Learn from your mistakes.  When something goes wrong and the two of you work through it, do not repeat the same mistake.  Rather than dive right back into whatever it was you did or said, think before you act.  At first, this will take some discipline but as you see positive results in the relationship, be encouraged that it is working.
 
38.    Go on a Date
 
Especially for married couples, but even for some ?dating? couples, start dating.   Often people become very comfortable in their relationship and sitting around on the weekends, watching movies is about as exciting as it gets.  Ask your mate out.  For example, actually call them and ask, ?If you do not have any plans for Saturday night, would you like to go to a concert with me??  It is crucial to relationships that they keep the fire
alive by enjoying the act of dating.  There are many people in long-term, successful marriages that will tell you they go out on dates every week, this has been a huge bonus for their relationship.
 
39.    Memory Box
 
Start  a  memory  box  to  store  old  movie  tickets,  brochures  from  cities visited, concert ticket stubs, old ski lift passes, cards attached to flowers received,  old  love  notes  or  letters,  birthday  cards  or  anniversary  cards from your mate, anything that the two of you did together.  Every once in awhile, pull the box out and look at the item s with your mate.  Reminisce about each memento, and keep all the special times in your life close to your heart!
 
40.    Keep the Kids Out of It
 
Whether  married  or  dating,  if  there  are  kids  involved,  it  is  crucial  that they are not used as pawns in any situation.  For example, if your mate wants to get intimate and you are not in the mood, do not say, ?I need to help  the  kids  with  their  homework,?  or  if  something  that  needed  to  be done was not taken care of because you forgot, do not blame it on the kids by saying, ?I was taking care of the kids and did not have time.?  In the  first  scenario,  be  honest  with  your m ate  and  tell  them  that  you  are very tired and while intimacy is important, you would prefer to make sure the kids are in bed on time so the two of you can have some quality time together. This opens an honest line of communication and does not place ill  feelings  on  the  kids,  especially  since  it  is  not  their  problem  to begin with.
 
41.    Listen to How You Talk
 
When working on your relationship, more than likely you and your mate have  settled  into  a  pattern  of speaking  to  each  other.   It might be with short, blunt answers, heavy sighs as though bothered, or with negative remarks.  Pay attention to not only your words spoken, but also the tone in which they are spoken.  Be positive, cheery, and respond in a way that will confirm to your mate that you are listening and truly interested ? that you have time to listen and communicate.  In addition, add terms of endearment into your conversation.   Instead of ?Good morning,? try, ?Hi honey, good morning!?
 
42.    Making Love
 
Intimacy is a huge part of a successful relationship.  Choose a book from the  bookstore  and  try  to  bring  a  little  excitement  into  your  relationship.  Do  not  be  afraid  to  experiment  and  learn  new  and  exciting  ways  to please each other.  Keeping intimacy alive is healthy and not a bad thing whatsoever!
 
43.    Turn the Computer Off
 
Often the computer becomes a replacement for a lack of something in the relationship. It might be just surfing, playing games, or getting involved with websites that promote pornography.  If you notice that your mate  is  spending  more  and  more  time  on  the  computer, take  this as  a sign that even if not doing anything wrong, they are choosing to spend the time with the computer instead of you.  In other words, use this as a sign that something is missing in your relationship.  Start by talking and searching  to  confirm  what  it  is  bothering  your  mate  and  then  work  on making it better!
 
44.    Follow Tradition
 
Keep some tradition in your marriage, which relates to the vows you took and the fact that marriage is sacred. Treat each anniversary as a celebration of your love and the time spent together. Follow the traditional anniversary gifts and see how creative you can be. The first year anniversary gift is paper.  One husband bought his wife a beautiful Chinese  drawing  on  rice  paper,  signed  by the  artist,  and  had  it  framed for her.  Make this fun, exciting, and keep traditions alive.
 
45.    Control Your Anger
 
Every relationship has difficulties, and sometimes, there can be some intense arguments.   For the sake of your relationship and the love you have for your mate; keep your anger in check.   First, when people are angry, hurtful words fly, usually not even meant.  However, after spoken, it is too late to take them back ? the damage is done.  Another problem with anger is that the word ?divorce? can easily be thrown around.   You may not  mean  it,  but  you  know it  hurts,  thus making  you  the winner of the argument.  NEVER talk about divorce in your relationship, even if just teasing.  If you need to go to another room to cool off, and then do that, but whatever you do, do not allow your anger to take control of your relationship.
 
46.    Financial Woes
 
One  of  the  main  reasons  other  than  fidelity  that  marriages  fall  apart  is due to finances.   When couples are struggling with money problems, tempers  flare,  frustration  builds,  drinking  m ay  start,  and  it  is  an  all-around unhealthy situation.  The minute there are any signs of financial difficulties, the two of you need to immediately sit down and figure out a plan on how to deal with the problem.   If needed, go to see a financial
consultant or a credit counseling service to help you get back on track.  Do  not  allow  your  finances  to  get  out  of  line  or  your  relationship  will certainly suffer.
 
47.    I Forgive You
 
If  something  has  happened  in  your  relationship  causing  the  trust  to waiver, you will have many things to work through.  When your mate has done  something  that  requires  you  to  forgive,  you  have  to  forgive, REALLY forgive.  Once you have worked through the issue either together  or  with  professional  counseling,  and  you  tell  them  that  you forgive them; you can never hold that over them again.  As an example, if your mate has had an affair and the two of you choose to work it out rather than throw the relationship away, once the problems are resolved and the forgiveness is said, it is done!  This means that you cannot stalk your mate to ensure they are where they said they would be, call or page them  throughout  the  day,  constantly  ask  for  reaffirmation  of  your relationship, it means that you forgive and put the past behind you and then move on in a new, strong, and healthy relationship. It will not be easy, but you can do it with the right help, attitude, and commitment.
 
48.    Fighting No-No
 
While having disagreements is normal and sometimes when controlled, healthy  for  relationships,  the  place  and  degree  of  discussion  are important.  Keep your disagreements private.  Being at a party or anywhere  around  family  or  friends  and  breaking  into  an  argument  is  a great way to break down a relationship.  Not only does it cause embarrassment for your mate, but it also puts a negative light on both of
you from the people witnessing the fight. If you are in public and think you need to argue, at least find a quiet corner or separate room where you can discuss whatever it is bothering you.
 
49.    Strong Family Ties
 
When  in  a  relationship, not  only  are  you  involved  with  the love  of  your life, but also the family of your mate.  It is important to build a strong, healthy relationship with the families as well.  Even if you do not see them often, having a good connection with your mate?s family will make life for everyone much better all the way around.
 
50.    Mentoring
 
If you know of another couple from work or your church that has been married for many years and continued to have a strong relationship, ask them if they would mentor you. Being around positive influences and watching someone who leads by example is a great way to learn how to have a good relationship for yourself.
 
51.    12-Month Calendar
 
As  a  special  gift,  have  a  12-month  calendar  created  with  pictures  of special times spent between the two of you.  Arrange the pictures to coordinate  with  the  months  and  then  as  a Christmas  or  birthday  gift,  or just as a special surprise, present it to your loved one.
 
52.    Something Handmade
 
You  do  not  have  to  be  a  world-renowned  artist  to  make  something homemade and special for the love of your life.  Even making a special, personalized  greeting  card  would  be  appreciated  and  show  your  mate that  you  care  enough  to  take  the  time  needed  to  make  something  by hand.   
 
53.    Favorite Meal
 
If your m ate has a meal, that is by far the favorite above everything else, go all out and prepare everything to order.  Before they arrive home, put on  something  nice  and  a  little  sexy,  light  some  candles,  and  have  a wonderful surprise waiting.
 
54.    Trip to the Pound
 
If you and your mate love animals, take a trip to the local animal shelter and pick out a dog or cat that needs a good home.  Adopting an animal that needs a home can be a wonderful way to have something that you both can care for and love together.  This will open up for long walks, taking  your  new  dog  on  a  walk,  or  hours  of  playing  with  a  sweet  and funny cat.
 
55.    Day at the Movies
 
Have a movie marathon some rainy or cold Saturday.  Put all your errands and chores on hold and head to your nearest theater.  Hit three or four movies and mix it up.  Buy the theater popcorn and drinks but sneak your own candy in.  This is a great way to spend some fun time together,  holding  hands  or  cuddling,  while  sharing  some  laughs  and maybe tears watching a variety of flicks.
 
56.    A Walk in the Park
 
Spending quality time together where you can talk and just enjoy each other?s company is critical to a good relationship.  Plan a nice walk in the park  to  include  a  comfortable  blanket  to  sit  on  the  grass  with  while having a good old-fashioned picnic.  Take this time talk, watch other people with their kids, and then just walk around, hand-in-hand.
 
57.    Name a Star
 
As a special gift, ask your mate to join you outside at night when the sky are black and the stars shining brightly?  Point up to the universe and state, ?See that star over there?   That is your star.  I bought it for you.?  
Then present them with the certificate showing that they do in fact have a star named after them. This wonderful gift will last a lifetime!
 
58.    Coupon Book
 
Create  a  coupon  book  filled  with  any  number  you  like  of  20-minute massages.  One day when least expected, when your mate comes dragging  in  the  door  tired  after  a  long,  hard  day  at  work,  present  this along with a gentle kiss.  Although you are the one offering the massages,  if  you  remain  faithful  to  your  coupons  and  never  grumble, your  love  life  will  more  than  likely  be  enhanced  and  before  long,  your mate will be the one giving you massages.
 
59.    Dinner by the Fire
 
Order  in  some  of  your  favorite  food,  open  a  bottle  of  fine  wine,  light some candles, and lay out a cozy blanket in front of a roaring fire. Enjoy feeding each other food, sneaking little kisses in between. This wonderful romantic moment will help build your relationship even stronger. This  kind  of  gesture  shows  your  mate  that  you  really  want something special from your relationship and that spending quality time together is a priority.
 
60.    Scavenger Hunt
 
If  things  have  been  a  little  stressed  in  your  relationship,  do  something extra special.  Start by creating a trail of rose petals from the door to the kitchen  where  your  mate  will  find  a  note to go  to  the  bedroom.    In the bedroom ,  have  another  note  next  to  an  overnight  bag  telling  them  to meet you at a specific hotel restaurant where you know the ambience is cozy and romantic.  The  note  should  direct  them  to  ask  for  you  at  the restaurant where you will be waiting to enjoy a fine dinner together. After dinner  and  cocktails,  gently  lead  your  mate  by  the  hand  to  a  beautiful room that you have reserved for the night.   There on the bed is a robe and a red rose.   This will do more for your relationship than you can imagine.  
 
61.    Photo Album
 
As a wonderful keepsake, create a photo album for your mate.  Include the  parents  or  siblings  to  come  up  with  some  special  childhood  and teenage pictures.  Include family, friends, special occasions, and times of the two of you together.  Whenever the two of you feel as though you are  drifting  apart  or  taking  one  another  for  granted,  pull  out  the  photo album as a reminder of the incredible person in your life.
 
62.    The Art of Gift Giving
 
Everyone  loves  to  be  given  a  gift,  especially  as  a  surprise  or  ?just because.?  Just remember while giving gifts is a beautiful thing to do for the person you love, there are five key essentials for making your mate know  that  you  are  giving  just  because  you  love  them .  First, put some thought into the gift.  Do not just pick up something at the last minute so you are not empty handed.  Second, make the effort.  Even if you have a busy schedule, be sure to schedule time to shop. Third, give with the right attitude. You give because you appreciate and love, not because you want something back.  Fourth, plan what you are going to give.  Find something  that  is  important  for  your  mate  and  not  necessarily  to  you.  Finally, add the element of surprise into the gift giving.  Using this equation is sure to impress your mate and leave a lasting impression.
 
63.    Family History
 
Perform some extensive research on your mate?s family history, which will  involve  some  help  from  the  family,  and create  a  website  especially for your mate?s family where they can share information, pictures, family recipes and more!  This will take some time and planning but very little money.  Myfamily.com is agreat site that is extremely reasonable. This will not only touch your mate?s heart, but the hearts of the entire family.
 
64.    A Day at the Spa
 
For  couples  where  the  mother  or  father  stays  home  and  takes  care  of the children all day long, show your appreciation for the hard work that takes.  Hire a babysitter for about four hours and give your mate a gift certificate  to  a  local  spa  where  they  can  enjoy  a  relaxing  massage, mineral  springs,  sauna,  mud  wrap,  or  whatever  special  treatments  are available.   
 
65.    Charity
 
Find  a  charity  that  you  would  both  like  to  contribute  to  and  give something special in both names.    For example, if there is a synergy house  near  where  you  live  for  unwed  mothers,  go  in  together  and purchase a crib or baby clothes.  Another option would be if a local park needs donations, find out what kind of trees they need and purchase a tree together.  Make this something special where you go shop together and then present together.  These types of kind acts are great for bringing  couples  closer  together  and  help  both  people  love  and appreciate each other even more for their kindness.
 
66.    Thunderstorms
 
While  some  people  find  thunderstorms  to  be  scary,  they  can  also  be viewed as being romantic.  If you have having a thunderstorm in your areas, without putting yourself in harm?s way, sit out on your porch if the storm  is  still  off  in  the  distance,  or  cuddled  on  the  couch  near  a  large window and just watch the lightening together.
 
67.    Take Pride in Yourself
 
Every relationship goes through down time.  Just because the flam e has become  a  mild  flicker,  that  does  not  mean  you  have  lost  the  love  for each other, it just means you need to add a little fuel to the fire. When couples have been together for a long time, the makeup comes off, the nice  clothes  turn  into  oversized  sweats  and  tee  shirts,  and  instead  of cuddling on the sofa or floor, one sits on the couch and the other in the recliner.  Step  back  in  time  and  start  getting  dressed  up  more  on  the weekends, invite your m ate to sit with you on the couch, dance together in  your  living  room  to  some  music,  or take  a  each other over change, embrace change. You may not always like the changes  that  happen,  but  do  not  throw  away  a  perfectly  good relationship just because the trail starts to wind.  Be patient and
encourage new directions while being honest about concerns that might arise.
 
77.    Reap What You Sow
 
This is an old saying that goes back a very long way but it still holds true today.  If you sow love, forgiveness, faithfulness, encouragement, honesty, and acceptance, then that are what you will reap.  It is definitely true that what you put into a relationship is what you get back.
 
78.    Board Games
 
Pick a night, perhaps on a cold winter night, and just enjoy playing board games. This  can  be  with  just  the  two  of  you,  or  with  several  close friends.  Bring out the snacks, beverages, and just have some fun.  
Laughter and fun are important factors in any relationship, for any age.  Laugh and enjoy having a good time with good honest fun!  You will truly be amazed at what this can do for your relationship.
 
79.    No Interference
 
Do not allow other people to interfere with your relationship.  If family members  try  to  get  in  the  middle  of  fights  or  debates,  that  is  definite trouble.  You might have friends with well-meant intentions trying to help you and your mate solve problems.   Although getting another person?s perspective is not a bad thing; make sure it is when you ask for it.   It is very important to keep integrity in your relationship and not allow people to interfere.
 
80.    Adore your Mate
 
Beyond telling your mate that you love them, that they are special, and having passion  in  your  relationship,  you  should  adore  your  mate  and what they bring into the relationship.   What that means is to appreciate and  love  them  for  the  person  they  are,  faults  and  all. This is true devotion to your mate and demonstration that you do not take them for granted.
 
81.    Follow Your Instincts
 
When things are going in a wrong direction, often people will simply keep going  in  the  same  direction  while  hoping  that  things  work  themselves out.   The result is usually negative.   Instead, listen to your gut feelings, your inner instincts. If you believe that something is bothering your mate or not right in your relationship, keep it between you and your m ate and work things out as a couple.
 
82.    Be Creative
 
The  words,  ?I  love  you,?  are  always  welcomed  but  why  not  add  some creativity to the way you tell your mate you love them.  Rent a billboard in  a  location  where  you  know  your  mate  drives  every  day  that  clearly says,  ?I  love  you,?  request  that  your  mate?s  radio  station  play  a  special song and message on his or her way to work, or if celebrating a special anniversary, have a skywriter fly by a ball stadium, park, or somewhere special where you are spending quality time together outdoors.
 
83.    Make Eye Contact
 
You may not think this is important, but think back to the first time you saw your now mate.  More than likely, the first interaction was through eye contact.    If  you  are  having  dinner  during  the  holidays  with  a  large group of family  and  friends,  glance  over  to  your  mate  and  give  them  a seductive wink, or if your mate is giving a speech and you are there to offer  support,  attentively  look  at  them,  making  directly  eye contact  and offer a warm reassuring smile.  Eyes can say a lot!

84.    Learn More about Your Mate
 
Either find a good questionnaire or create one that does not dig up the past, but focuses on discovering other qualities about each other.  One happily married couple did this and the wife, who had been standing by her  husband  for  more  than  10  years,  discovered  that  he  used  to  be  a competitive ice skater.  She had no idea.  Guess what they did on Saturday?
 
85.    Change Routines
 
Understand that every once in a while, it is important to throw an exciting curve into your relationship.  If you are in a routine for example of offering your mate a quick peck on the lips before you part ways for the day, try adding a soft, gentle kiss on the neck. You can be assured that throughout the day, that change in routine, is what will be on your mate?s mind.
 
86.    Dance
 
Finding a nice place where the two of you can enjoy a slow dance is a great  way  to  spend  time  together,  holding  each  other  without  saying  a word.  Keep  in  mind  that  to  accomplish  this,  you  can  stay  home  and simply move some furniture out of the way, light some candles, and put on your favorite soft music and enjoy some quiet, romantic time together.
 
87.    Sunrise/Sunset
 
Too  often  people  miss  the  beautiful  miracle  of  a  sunrise  or  sunset.  Schedule time to get up early one morning with a thermos of hot coffee or cappuccino and find a quiet place where the two of you can go just to watch the sun rise or set.  Appreciate what nature has to offer and share it with each other.
 
88.    Explorations
 
Find  something  they  you  are  both  interested  in  exploring  and  do  it together.  For  example, if  you  live  in  a  place  where  there  are  caves, make a day of driving around and exploring caves.   Be sure to take the right  equipment  and  safety  precautions  but  this  puts  you  both  in  a position  of  trusting  each  other  and  discovering  something  new  and exciting together.
 
89.    To Tell or Not to Tell
 
Experts will disagree on how much of a person past should be shares in a relationship and while some things probably should be shared, most people lean more to not sharing every aspect of the past.  First, it is the past. Think back to how much people grow through the teen years to mid-twenties.  Offering unnecessary information from the past is a great way to create distrust, insecurity, and more questions than answers.  Be wise when sharing.
 
90.    Respect Privacy
 
When two people come together in a relationship, each person has their own set of history. There are yearbooks, maybe love letters from a first love, other objects that may not seem important to one person but to the owner, they have a special meaning.  It is important to respect the privacy of your mate?s ?stuff.?  Do not dig through boxes of things owned by your mate out of curiosity.  Instead, allow them to bring those things out if they feel it is necessary.  By helping yourself, you are disrespecting something sacred to your mate, which is not healthy for any relationship.
 
91.    No Place for Abuse
 
Regardless  of  how  much  you  love  your  mate  and  believe  in  who  they are,  there  is  NEVER  an  appropriate  time  for  abuse,  whether  physical, emotional, or verbal.  If your mate shows aggression or any form of abuse toward you; seek counseling for both of you immediately to try to work through things.  If your m ate refuses to go, even if it is hard, leave.  First is your safety.  Second, it is possible for people to learn ways in which to manage their aggressions.  If this is the case, the life of the relationship has a much better chance of surviving!
 
92.    Open Your Eyes
 
Do  not  drive  yourself  crazy  with  this,  but  take  notice  of  how  your relationship is going.   Open your eyes and take stock of what is and is not working in your relationship.  Are there definite things missing or definite problem areas that need to be worked on?  Think about it.

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 The Law of Attraction  
 
One of the most well documented theories of New Age thought is the Law of Attraction. Simply put, it suggests that you will always encounter, in your life, those things which you think about on a regular basis.  
 
There are many ideas, which have persisted throughout the course of human history, that has been blended to form the theory, so understanding it may take some time and research. However, because this ‘law’ essentially proposes you can achieve pretty-
much anything you want simply by changing your thinking patterns, it remains one of the most interesting ideas to have been championed in recent years.  
 
Though the basic idea itself has come under attack from a number of sources, anecdotal evidence at least, suggests that some correlation between thoughts and future experiences might well exist on some level. If nothing else, the proposal encourages  
people to consider the overall scope of their thoughts and emotions; and that can be no bad thing.   
 
Many would argue that personal attributes such as the ability to maintain a positive attitude have a great effect on the circumstances of life; and so, at the root, our basic thinking might be found to be the ultimate cause of many positive and negative  
experiences in life.   
 
How Does the Law of Attraction Work?   
 
The main problem with this theory for most people is that they have absolutely no idea how it works. How can thoughts alone impact the way that a person’s life unfolds? The honest answer is that the real theory beneath the Law of Attraction is still being worked out on a lot of levels. Some people who are strong advocates of the theory aren’t completely sure of all the ins and outs. One thing is for certain, though: a person’s actions are controlled, on whatever level, by what goes on in their head. This  
basic premise underpins the whole idea.  
 
In explaining how the Law of Attraction works, some might point to the notion of subjective reality. This is an important idea which may help to explain how thoughts can carry so much substance in reality. Without a basic knowledge of the difference between  
subjective reality and absolute reality, it is very difficult to get a handle on the rest of the theory.   
 
To put it simply, subjective reality is a theory held by many people that leads them to believe that there is only one consciousness. The primary idea behind this theory is that you are a stream of consciousness – and, because of that, everything that happens in  
your personal reality is a result of what you have projected in your thoughts.   
 
In this clearly defined world of subjective reality, the only consciousness that exists is your own. Because of that, there is a single set of intentions being impressed onto your personal reality - being projected by you; the person with total control over your  
consciousness. Because of this, you can become the true master of your own thinking within that domain.   
 
Since nobody that you encounter is truly conscious, in this way if thinking, then you is the only person in the universe who can  have intentions. In this scenario, you are the sole thinker who gets to dictate what goes on in your reality. This is a very powerful thought … if you really think about it.  Nevertheless, it is also a difficult idea for many people to get their minds around.  
 
However, it is the primary premise for The Law of Attraction itself. Many people struggle with this because they don’t truly understand what they are in this subjective reality. You can’t grasp the idea if you think of you as being simply your physical body. Instead, you have to understand that you are the one consciousness that has sole control over the entire reality which is taking place before you.   
 
The 7 Universal Principles  
 
The following seven principles combine to create a harmony that is ultimately experienced as the Law of Attraction.  
 
These principles are important aspects of subjective reality. They must all be understood if you want to be successful in using the Law of Attraction in your life.   
 
 
1) The Principle of Manifestation  
 
This principle   proposes that overall consciousness is something that we ultimately choose as human beings. People can choose to be conscious so that they can have complete and total awareness in the here and now. Even though we may not completely recognise it, we are constantly asking ourselves the main question that pertains to current consciousness: we want to know what focused consciousness can positively create for us.   
 
2) The Principle of Magnetism  
 
This is a key principle   that concerns equal return for our thinking. You can only attract energy of like kind. If you put out positive emotions and thoughts, then you can expect to pick up positive associations. The universe is full of energy that is constantly being recycled by us and also moves within us. Each person is an important member of a delicate creation seeking complete balance - a life lesson that has been adopted by just about every culture on the planet. People naturally seem to understand that, in life, much of what you get is dependent upon what you give.   
 
3) The Principle of Pure Desire  
 
The Principle of Pure Desire states that your intentions will have a great impact on the return you get. If your actions and thoughts are driven by absolutely pure intention, then you can be sure that the outcome will be in your favor. In order for those intentions to be pure, you must be thinking in a state that is free of any fear, doubt, or notion of desperation. Your motives must be clear and worthy if you are going to receive a positive response. If you fail to make your requests with good and clear motives, then your positive  
energy will be negated and will not be reciprocated.   
 
4) The Principle of Paradoxical Intent  
 
This principle   is one that dictates the way that situations evolve as a result of direct thought. If you act in desperation, for example, then a paradox will be created that will result in a negative return on your intended energy. Because you are desperate in your  
thoughts, a certain vibration will be sent out which will have a negative impact on the world around you. Because of this, people who might otherwise have been in position to help you will be pushed away.   
 
5) The Principle of Harmony  
 
This is the principle   that concerns a person’s ability to gain the good things they want in life. If you make a choice to live in accord with the universe and do not put out negative vibes, then you will effectively set yourself up for a plethora of good feelings and positive results. This can only happen if a person makes the conscious decision to align themselves with people around them and the flow of the universe. This is the one of the universal laws that requires the kind of absolute attention to positive thinking that many people just aren’t willing or able to put out.    
 
6) The Principle of Right Action   
 
This is the principle   that rewards people who do the right things in life. The Principle   of Right Action also indicates that in order to experience things like value, honor, and dignity, a person must do their part to promote those qualities in their own surroundings. If you, on the other hand, do things to break down these important universal qualities, then you will see those things deteriorate and erode in your own life. Because of this, people need to constantly be thinking about their choices and considering the impact that they might have both on themselves and on others.   
 
7) The Principle of Expanding Influence  
 
Many people don’t understand the overriding power of their own personal energy. Energy is one of the things that is constantly expanding in the world. If you work hard enough to have a large personal positive vibration, then that good energy can be felt throughout the world. Things that you never imagined might actually happen if you concentrate hard enough on your own personal thoughts and emotions. If you make the conscious decision to live a quality life that promotes happiness for those around you, then the positive power of influence will eventually expand to impact all of those people and things that are around  
you.   


History of the Law of Attraction  
 
There are many theories about the beginning of this theory and there is no real way to trace the exact origins. The history of the Law of Attraction is connected with the desire of believers to find legitimacy in their universal ideals. It is believed that the Buddha, at one time said,  
 
 “What you have become is the result of what you have thought.”   
 
In ancient times, at the height of learning and knowledge in Greece, many philosophers expressed similar ideas. Prior to Socrates, the prevailing thought in Greece was that a person’s belief alone was strong enough to shape reality. It is also a basic tenet of many of the major religions that beliefs shape our reality.  
 
During the c19, various New-Thought writers proposed that positive thought could have a positive impact on the events of a person’s life. People like James Allen, Wallace D Wattles, Napoleon Hill and Charles F Haanel, to name but a few, all advanced theories of reality that proposed that thoughts can and do shape the circumstances and conditions of a person’s life.  
 
The Law of Attraction continues to fascinate and excite people to this day. Movies such as The Secret and What the Bleep continue to provide modern insight and support for this very ancient idea.   

Criticism of the Law of Attraction  
 
One thing which has added some legitimacy to the argument for the Law of Attraction is the proposal that it has a strong relationship with Quantum Physics. If thoughts are energy, then perhaps there is some scientific basis for the Law of Attraction - since energy can attract and repel energy.  
 
However, many people within the scientific community remain skeptical. They suggest that believers of the theory do not have any scientific basis for their proposals. Though most scientists don’t mind the exploration of the idea, they would rather those supporters of the theory were more forthright about their motives. They feel, amongst other things, that they been very misleading with their description of the supposed science at the foundation of the theory.   
 
Scientists believe that people who buy into and promote the Law of Attraction are taking something away from legitimate science. Though there may be plenty of anecdotal evidence, there is no real way to test the theory scientifically.  
 
In addition, there are people who feel the Law of Attraction itself is not defined correctly. According to people who study New Thought, there needs to be a re-evaluation of how the Law of Attraction is explained based upon its principles.   
 
Religious communities have also been highly critical of the Law of Attraction. It is perhaps not surprising since many writers use scriptural references to legitimize their statements. For example, the oft-quoted words of Jesus …  
 
 “Ask and you shall receive. Seek and you shall find. Knock and the door shall be opened unto you.”  
 
The Law of Attraction remains a lightning-rod issue sure to create plenty of interest and attention from people looking to improve their lives. Along with that attention comes criticism of the validity of such thinking. That is something that Law of Attraction theorists  
will have to live with until they can come up with concrete proof that a connection exists between a person’s thinking and the events that occur in life.   
 
Using the Law of Attraction  
 
One of the interesting questions regarding the Law of Attraction deals with everyday application. With a theory that has such obscure and abstract principles, it is sometimes difficult for people to put the theory into action. In order to truly get the most out of  
the Law of Attraction, a person has to be able to set realistic and reasonable goals. It isn’t something that is going to save your life or send a million dollars to your door for no reason. Being realistic with your goals is a healthy way to look at the Law of Attraction.   
 
The primary principles behind the Law of Attraction address how different people will deal with each other. This should be where you start when you want to set goals. The Law of Attraction can bring you a great deal of good will if you put out the right vibes towards other people. Not only will this open up good energy to come your way, but it will also generally make people feel like being around you.   

The Law of Attraction is something that can shift luck in your direction, but you can’t expect it to bring you a miracle. It is alright to expect that it might bring someone special into your life. It is also acceptable to expect the Law of Attraction to put you in positive situations. From there, it’s up to you to make good decisions in order to effect change in your life.   
 
The Law of Attraction won’t immediately turn you into a perfect person, but by putting out positive vibrations and controlling your positive energy, you will ensure that positive returns head your way. In order to use the Law of Attraction, it is said that a person must have a good knowledge of what they actually want; and, in addition to that, they must ask the universe for what they want.   

In addition, a primary principle is that the person must be able to apply complete focus to the thing they want. In order to truly get what one wants, a person must be able to focus positive energy and enthusiasm on the object of desire and must hold the overwhelming belief that the object already gained.  
 
Manifesting your desires by using the Law of Attraction is something that is completely controlled by the process of action. Perhaps no one action in itself will be enough to take your dreams and turn them into reality. In order to truly see a manifestation of your goals and desires, you may have to go through a step by step process.   
 
The key to manifesting your desires is to have a strong focus. One of the primary principles of the law is that if you focus enough of your positive energy on a certain thing, it will eventually come to pass. Though it might not happen immediately, enough positive  
energy will influence situations that can help you realize those primary dreams and desires that you have.   
 
Focus and attention to a goal is something that each person must have if they eventually want to achieve success. There’s no way to guarantee that a goal will be achieved immediately, but without focus, you can be sure that nothing good will happen in accordance with your long term goals.   
 
What other things must you keep in mind if you want to achieve your goals through the utilization of the Law of Attraction?  Perspective is obviously a very important consideration. You must understand the basic premise that you will be able to not only  
survive, but even thrive without achieving your goal. Although your eyes are fixed to the prize; you know that without it, you can still enjoy a good life.   
 
Maintaining a proper perspective on your goals will help you to project waves of positive energy. According to the Law of Attraction, this is one of the most important things that people must do if they want to achieve success. Sending out good energy  
with the wrong intentions or motives will do nothing but channel negative energy back your way.  

Tips for Being Successful   
 
Don’t pick and choose   
 
When looking at the seven universal laws above, you might have the tendency to look at one and think that it is more important than any of the others. This is a fault that can impact your ability to be successful - each of the laws carries an importance of its own; and would be completely ineffective without the other laws. In order to maintain balance, which is vitally important in being successful, meditate of each of these laws.   
 
A complete lifestyle decision  
 
The Law of Attraction has to apply to each aspect of your life if you are going to be successful with it. There is no way to apply it to one part of your life, while leaving it out for the sake of convenience in another part. Each time you wake up and make conscious decisions, you are sending out the vibrations that have an impact on everything in your environment. In order to truly find success, you have to be willing to make your entire life put out positive energy. It isn’t difficult to wake up in the morning and be happy, positive, and enthusiastic. It’s something you have to get used to doing and eventually it will become a habit.  
 
Success is habit-forming, so you have to keep it up  
 
Human beings, by our nature, are creatures of habit. Once you begin experiencing success, there is a good chance that such success will snowball and lead to more success. Waking up in the morning in a good mood may not be easy at the start, but it’s  
something that you can train yourself to do. There are plenty of positive people in the world who put a great deal of conscious effort in maintaining their levels of energy and positivity. Even if it is difficult to make those decisions at the beginning, remember that it will become easier with time. If you form good habits, you will benefit in the long run.   
 
Affirmation is an important part of the process
 
In order to keep your eye on success, you need to have reason to believe that your desire will come true. One way to do that is to tell yourself that the success is coming. Affirmation is a positive thing that can bring about good energy and good results in your life. Even if you are feeling good about your goals, you still need to keep those positive thoughts in your head. The best ways to keep positive energy and emotions flowing is to speak them. Say positive things to yourself about your life and the direction that you are heading – and say them repeatedly! This can ultimately create a very powerful and positive feedback in your reality.   
 
Final Thoughts  
 
The Law of Attraction is not difficult - once you actually begin to do the things we have discussed, positive results will invariably follow. Despite some disagreement about the finer points of the theory, no one can argue that positive thinking has a positive impact on a person’s life. If you are going to truly find success, though, you can’t simply look at the Law of Attraction as a substitute for taking  action .  
 
Attempting to secure your hopes and dreams based solely on good energy isn’t something that is highly likely. With that in mind, it would be very foolish to depend upon a natural law to provide you with everything you need. Instead, you have to be willing to take advantage of every opportunity that is presented to you.   
 
If you are too busy waiting on the perfect solution, then you might miss out on the very helpful hand that has been placed right in front of you. Don’t be afraid to take the stepping stones that are presented to you in order to reach your dreams. Not everything comes instantly, so a little bit of patience is required. By consistently putting out positive vibrations into your personal reality, people will undoubtedly be drawn to you. Utilize those people and allow them to help you.   
 
Because your conscious energy is always being put out, you always have to be aware of what you are feeling. No person is perfect, so nobody is going to put out positive energy all of the time, but making a commitment to this type of lifestyle can be extremely rewarding. Besides the fact that you will be sending good vibes into the atmosphere, people will just want to be around you if you are a happy, positive, enthusiastic person.  
   
We have considered a very powerful resource you can utilize to bring you everything you want in life, but you should also be aware that the very same principle carries some risk. You can achieve a lot by using this law, but you must also remember that negative energy can send negative situations your way.   
 
The key to staying away from bad situations is to maximize the amount of positive energy that you put out in order to counteract the occasional spike in bad emotions. If you do that, then you will eventually find great success using nature’s most powerful and oldest form of karma – The Law of Attraction.